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In any relationship, there is nothing better than knowing that the people or person you devote your time to has your best interest at heart.  We should be open enough to reassure the person that we are with, that he/she can trust us and count on us when we need them....not in a one sided exchange, but in a reciprocal relationship.  Thinking that someone will be there when you need them, and Knowing that someone will be there when you need them, are two different things.

Wouldn't it be nice to be able to take the guessing game out of relationships?  Men and women shouldn't have to guess how you feel about them, nor should they have to guess what the intent is behind your communication with them.  We should feel comfortable enough to speak with each other as adults, even if the outcome is not what we would hope for.   Too often, we leave to much "on the table," meaning we leave the relationship with so many things left unsaid...and find ourselves saying, "I should have said this, or that.....and if we get the opportunity to go back and say the things that we wanted to say earlier in the relationship, the other person usually says, "Why didn't you tell me?"...and sometimes, at that point, it's too late.

So, in your relationships, make sure that the people around you KNOW, how you feel about them. Don't make them have to play the guessing game, because there is someone else out there ready to tell them everything they have been longing to hear from You.  If he/she gets tired of playing the guessing game and moves on, you can't blame them nor can you be mad.  Tell someone how you really feel about them, so that they will Know.  And, if they show you that the feeling is not mutual, don't try to convince them to like you, walk away, and leave them alone.  Stop guessing, KNOW.

By Lynnette Clement