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The Empowering Word of the Month for May is, Compromise.   For some people, compromising means to relinquish control over something or someone.  Compromising is not easy for some people.  However, it is an important skillset to have in life, because the reality is that things cannot always go your way.  If things always go your way, someone in that situation is not happy. 

​Compromising is not about forsaking your own wants and needs, it is about reaching an amicable agreement that requires you to consider how your decisions can impact someone else.

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You have to be flexible and adaptable in life, because everything is not always about you.   When things do not always go as planned, you have to learn how to adapt to new and different things.  Compromising requires you to be mentally mature enough to know that it is selfish to be uncompromising.  If you compromise, it doesn't mean that you are a push over.  In regard to morality and ethics, there are some things that you do not compromise on, everything else should be negotiable.   You also must have realistic expectations in regard to what you expect someone else to compromise.

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Compromising is about "meeting in the middle,"  it is not about you getting your needs met or the other person getting their needs met, it is about asking yourself, "How can this situation work out well for all parties involved?"  When you do not comprise, it is a form of bullying. Eventually, all bullies are met with resistance.  Life is not only about you and what you want or need.  Life is made up of a lot of different people, who will have competing needs and wants as well.  Therefore it is important to learn how to compromise in various situations.

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Make sure that you learn how to compromise, without compromising your happiness and sanity.  Life is never one-sided; it's multifaceted, and sometimes complex.  Nothing is black and white, there will be some gray areas to consider.  So, all of us must learn how to compromise, when necessary.  If being compromising has a negative connotation for you, rethink about how you view or define the word, compromise.  Remember, ​Compromising is not about forsaking your own wants and needs, it is about reaching an amicable agreement that requires you to consider how your decisions can impact someone else.

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By Lynnette Clement