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In a fast paced world, where most people have a microwave society mentality (I want it fast, quick and right now), it can be hard navigating through life when you feel like you are on pause.  When it feels like you are on pause, it feels like you are always waiting for something important to happen in your life.  For example, waiting for your financial situation to improve, waiting for that phone call from that special someone, waiting for that marriage proposal, waiting to have children, waiting for that ideal job that you want, waiting to meet the right person to date, waiting for your significant other to change into being a better partner to you, waiting to go back to school, or waiting to pursue your goals and dreams.

We get tired of waiting and sometimes try to rush through life.  We sometimes try to rush through life, because we do not know when the end of our lives will come.  We tend to rush our partner into living the life that we want to live and get frustrated when our partner might not move at the same speed.  Sometimes, it is uncomfortable to wait, because we usually start thinking that if we wait, we might not get to where we want to be in life.  The truth is that if you wait for something too long, you might lose interest in it, or you might miss out on an opportunity.

Nevertheless, waiting is not always a bad thing to do.  It is in the waiting period, that we get to analyze the situation, think critically about what we truly want, and try to avoid making mistakes  that we might later regret.  We don't realize that sometimes that "pause," is the moment that we need to reflect on our lives and determine what we really want in life.  How many times have you been in waiting and became frustrated with how things are not going the way that you had hoped or planned in the timeframe that you wished it would, only to later find yourself thanking God that things didn't happen the way that you originally wanted them too?

Sometimes, it is important to wait, so do not rush through life, do not rush into a relationship, and when you are in a relationship, do not rush your partner to do something he/she is not ready to do.  Keep in mind, however, that there could be a specific time frame on things like childbearing, before menopause or before a certain age, where waiting too long could decrease the possibility.

In your relationship, that pause (waiting period) is important, because it gives you the opportunity to get to know the person that you are with on a more personal level. That insight that you get while waiting to move to the next level in your relationship, will help to determine if he or she is worth your valuable time.  Being in waiting can be a good thing.   You don't have to wait until everything is perfect, because a perfect world does not exist.  You don't have to wait until the right time, because the right time may never come.  What I am saying is that you should wait until after you get to know someone on a personal level to decide where you want to place the person into your life (as a friend, an associate, an intimate partner, or exclude them from your life).  

When you rush into things, you are more susceptible to making mistakes. Although, being in waiting can be difficult, waiting is important.   In your relationship, pace yourself, don't move too slow and don't move too fast. Don't rush anything, because you might overlook some very important details that could later impact your relationship.  

So, while you are in waiting, make sure you assess the situation thoroughly so that you can make an informed decision about whether or not the person you are dating is the right person for you.  This is important, so take your time to make sure that you are making the best decisions for Your life.


By Lynnette Clement