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It is important that we are confident in our ability to do and be anything that we are willing to work hard at.  Having confidence in your ability, despite your disability, knowledge base, or access is important to your perspective on what you believe you are capable of achieving.  Confidence is not about arrogance, narcissism, or belittling others to inflate your own ego.  Nor is it about what people believe you can do.  Confidence is how you feel about yourself and your abilities and capabilities.  When you have confidence, you know that you don't have to prove anything to anyone else, nor do you go out of your way to prove others wrong.  Having confidence is solely about you and how you feel about yourself, your abilities, capabilities, and self-assurance.

 

To develop confidence, you have to get rid of negative self-talk, doubt, and fear.   What you don't have may play a role in how much harder you might have to work to achieve your goals.  Nevertheless, what you don't have, does not and should not dictate whether or not you can achieve your goals.  When you have confidence, the only person that you have to prove anything to is yourself; everyone else are a non-factor.  The only person that has to believe in you, is YOU.

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No one else can live your life for you.  Therefore, you have to go through life with confidence.  Confidence will help you learn how to face and tackle challenges with a good mindset; knowing that in the end, you win.  No matter how challenging things are for you in life, there are lessons to learn along the way.  Those lessons teach you how to live in a much better way, as well as how to achieve goals more efficiently and effectively.  So, when things don't always turn out the way you planned or wanted, it does not mean that you are a failure or that you have failed, it means that you are in a grooming season, where you are being better prepared to handle what it is that you say you want in life.  

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You might not get the lesson the first time you are tested.  It might take you sometime to finally learn the lesson that life is trying to teach you, but rest assured, you will eventually learn life lessons.  In spite of it all, don't let anything or anyone detract from your self-confidence.  When you know who you are, nothing and no one can change your perception of yourself.   When people try to tell you who you are not, let them think what they want to think; just don't let them change your mind about how you feel about yourself.  Be assertive about how you feel about yourself and never feel guilty about telling the truth and setting healthy boundaries.  Don't downplay who you are to fit into the mold of the minds of people who cannot see who you really are, beyond their own scope of understanding of themselves.  Trust in yourself and your abilities. Be confident, not arrogant.  What is already understood, does not need to be explained. Confidence is attractive...exude it!

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By Lynnette Clement