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The habits that we develop over the years, shape how we live and how considerate or inconsiderate we are to others.  Our habits are either good or bad.  Our habits can get in the way of progressing towards doing something new and different.  Our habits become patterns that we find difficult to steer away from.  We have to be mindful of how our habits can interfere with our relationships.  The way in which you might be used to doing something, your mate too may have grown accustomed to doing things in his/her own way as well, and it could be different from what you are used to.  Your differences doesn't always make what he/she does wrong, it could just mean that it is different.  

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What are your habits?  Are they negatively affecting your relationship?  How important are your habits to you?  Are they worth you losing your mate?  Habits usually mean that you are "stuck in your ways."  Being "stuck in your ways," means that you have a difficult time or refuse to do things differently.  It also means that you have a difficult time resolving conflict and compromising.  When we are in relationships, we don't have to change everything about ourselves to be accommodating.  However, our relationships would benefit if we learn how to transform bad habits into good ones.

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I strongly encourage you to have an honest conversation with your mate about your habits and how they could be affecting your relationship.  Sometimes, we have to get out of our own way, if we want to build happy and healthy relationships with others.  How are your habits affecting your relationship or your ability to develop new relationships, or maintain your current relationship?  Sometimes, change is good, when it is for the betterment of you as an individual, as well as for the good of your relationship.  Evaluate your habits, determine if they are good or bad and take the necessary steps to self-improvement.

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By Lynnette Clement

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