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Thoughtfulness is about having consideration for the needs of others. It is having a generous heart that is selfless.   People who are thoughtful often put others needs before their own.  They are caring people who are sometimes taken advantage of, under-appreciated, treated as if they have an ulterior motive, or overlooked.  When people consider your needs and help you find ways to meet your needs, it is important that you show that you appreciate what they do for you, especially when they don't have to do it, and when they do not want anything from you in return. When people think of you enough to help or support you in any way, show him/her that you are thankful for them, because they don't have to do anything for you.

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People who are thoughtful have a caring heart.  Thoughtfulness is what is missing in the world today. In a world where a lot of people are self-centered, it is a breath of fresh air to meet people who are genuinely thoughtful. If people in your circle are thoughtful to you, be thoughtful to them, especially if you are thoughtful to those who are not as thoughtful to you, yet treat the people who are thoughtful to you as an after thought.  You might hear the people you mistreat say, "You do everything for everybody else, but when I need you, you make up excuses."  After a while, thoughtful people will begin to assess the time and energy that he/she puts in to being thoughtful to you and realize that it is without reciprocation.  You will soon find that they are less thoughtful to you..  You cannot be mad about that, because he/she is demonstrating the same behavior that you are demonstrating.  If you are not mad at yourself for your lack of thoughtfulness, you shouldn't be mad at him/her when the "tables turn."

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We have to learn how to treat people better, especially if we want them to remain in our lives.  If you have people in your life who have helped or supported you in any way, show that you appreciate him/her.  If you are not thoughtful and people start treating you the way you treat them, you cannot be upset about it, especially if you are okay with how you treat people.  The fact that someone has thought enough of you to do something for you whether big or small, should be enough reason for you to practice the same thoughtfulness with him/her.  Life is not all about You, nor is it about what you can get from people.  Life is about what you Give, what contributing impact you are making in the lives of others, and how you treat the people around you.  Let's all be kind enough to be thoughtful. 

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By Lynnette Clement