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The choices that we make can have a positive or negative effect on ourselves or someone else.  The consequences that result from poor decision making can hold a lot of weight.  The next time you make any decisions in your relationship, make sure you weigh the weight of your choices.   Good decisions are not as "heavy" as bad decisions; meaning there are usually consequences that result from making bad decisions. 

 

You can weigh the weight of your choices by asking yourself, What could possibly be the outcome that results from my choice?  What could I possibly lose?  What could I possibly gain?  Who could possibly be affected by my choices, and how?  Is my choice worth the outcome that it could produce? 

 

Weighing the weight of your choices can serve as a moral compass that helps you choose to do what is right versus what is wrong.  The heaviness you may feel when making bad choices, is usually a regret that you carry for a very long time and is not beneficial to you or your relationship.  

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In relationships, you will encounter all kinds of things that will require you to make choices.  The weight of your choices will depend on how negatively it impacts you or your relationship.  For example: If your mate is someone who does not like to work, the weight of you having to pay the bills will become heavy as the amount of the bills increase.  If you conduct business with your partner and he/she does not take his/her responsibilities seriously, and does not put in the work to help the business run successfully; the weight of responsibilities that it will take for you to keep the business afloat will become heavy.  If you or your mate have challenges fighting the temptation to cheat, the weight of responsibilities of dividing the time and/or money, and trying to keep two people happy will be heavy, as well as the guilt and the possibility of losing your mate will be heavier.  If you are in a relationship with someone that you know you need to let go of, the weight will be heavy because it usually will compromise your mental sanity, health and well being, as well as your happiness.  It is extremely important that in any relationship, you weigh the weight of your choices. In every aspect of our lives our choices matter.  Some things are just not worth carrying the heavy load.  Weigh the weight of your choices, so that you can make better decisions in life and in your relationship.

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By Lynnette Clement