In relationships you have to be secure enough to not let society make you feel inferior or less than anyone else.  You do not have to compete with anyone.  Didn't you know that you are the "Cre'me de la cre'me?" (which in French means, "The best of the best").  You shouldn't have to feel like you are competing with anyone.  Everyone that has great personality characteristics should have the "There is no one better," mentality; not in a narcissistic or arrogant way, but in a self-confident way.  There is no competition. When you are in a relationship, being envious or jealous of others can ruin your relationship.  You have to remember, you are who your mate chose to be with.  When your mate chose you, that means that you are who he/she wants to be in a relationship with.  You are the chosen one.

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We should also not compete nor be envious or jealous and want what someone else has that you don't have.  You have to be willing to go through what he/she went through their entire life to get what they have and most of us are not willing to go through anything that puts us out of our comfort zone.  Do not compete. There is no competition.  The only person who you should compete with is YOU.  You should only compete with being better than you were yesterday.  No one else can compete with you.  There is no competition. 

 

If you feel that you have to compete with others, stop competing.  You do not have to compete with anyone. Enhance your self-worth, your self-efficacy, your self-esteem by embracing and loving the unique person that you are.  Don't make yourself or your mate feel that you or he/she is not worthy.  You are worthy.  You are the best of the best.  You have the ability and control to make yourself even better.  There is no competition.  I repeat, there is no competition.  Say that statement as an affirmation to yourself until you believe it, because it is true.  There is no competition.

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By Lynnette Clement