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In some relationships, there is usually a lot of focus on sex and less focus on intimacy.  Intimacy, is not always about sex….it’s about having an open and honest conversation about your feelings for someone and having a deep connection with someone.  Intimacy is about chemistry and compatibility on all levels, not just sexual.  Learning how to be sensual in a relationship can lead to the art of sensuality that can ultimately lead to a more intimate sexual experience.  Intimacy is an important aspect of a committed relationship.   

 

Intimacy is just as important as sex.  Sex is important to relationships, however, neither are enough to sustain a healthy relationship.  Not only is intimacy important to relationships, passion is important as well.  We also have to learn how to have passion in a relationship.  Passion derives from intimacy and is a sensual, intense closeness between you and your partner.  A gentle touch, caress, or close, strong hug can be intimate and passionate.  Intimacy and passion are  important in relationships and are integral components that we shouldn’t lose focus on.

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You can get to intimacy by spending quality time with each other, get to know one another on a personal level, discuss one another’s likes and dislikes in relationships, and creating a romantic  atmosphere (setting the scene) that can include lighting candles, playing soft music, wearing sexy attire, etc.  Time constraints (lack of time) usually prevent or impede upon intimacy and your ability to feel a connection with your partner.  You have to make time for intimacy.  There are times when you want to have sex and then there are other times when you want intimacy.  You have to learn how and when to do both.   

 

I encourage you to learn how to be more intimate with your partner.  Intimacy can help you feel more desirable and appreciated.  So, tonight as you spend time with your mate, try being intimate with him/her by making time for foreplay.  Get to know your mate on a more personal level, get to know your mates body parts on a more personal level.  This is all a part of intimacy.  Don’t just have sex or do the “F” word, remember there are times when each of these are warranted.  Just having sex can get boring sometimes.  Now, is the time to make time for intimacy by taking your time with him/her tonight and watch the two of you fall in love, again.  Spend time on intimacy.  Intimacy matters.

 

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By Lynnette Clement