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In a world full of crime, violence, ignorance, anger, inequities, disrespect, and hatred, it can be difficult to always respond to these situations in a loving way. However,  don’t change who you are to fit in with people around you.  Don’t let people change your good heart.  We will not be judged by how others treat us.  We will be judged by how we treat others.  Each person will be judged by God, individually.   How do you treat people?  Always, Lead with Love.  Treat people how you want to be treated.  It takes more energy to be mean, than it takes to be nice.

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We have to learn how to be better to ourselves and to others and the first step to accomplishing that is by first loving and respecting yourself.  When you love and respect yourself, you can learn to love and respect others.   To love yourself, don’t focus on what you are not or what you don’t have; focus on who you are yet becoming.  To respect yourself, don’t focus on your mistakes or what others say about you, or what happened to you; focus on the positive aspect of turning weaknesses into strengths.  In doing so, will help you learn how to respond to situations in a more positive way.  Instead of listening to react, listen to understand, and ask clarifying questions to make sure that your response is appropriate for the situation.  Because, some people think how they are and not how you are, do not assume what someone else’s intentions are.  Lead with Love.  Instead of reacting to every situation that you encounter with skepticism or anger, Lead with love.  

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Leading with love, usually means that you will have to consider what I call the three P’s: Pause, Process, Proceed.  Pause to assess the situation and make sure you fully understand what is happening.  Process the information and figure out what you need to do with that information.  Proceed with responding to the situation by asking a clarifying question to make sure that you are not misinterpreting what occurred, to determine how best to respond.   Just think, if all of us lead with love, we would live in a much safer, respectful, loving, and caring world.  So today, and every day, start the day by leading with love.

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By Lynnette Clement